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		<title>By: Fiona Barnes</title>
		<link>http://parent-empowerment-blog.com/2009/09/05/best-practices-vs-innovation/comment-page-1/#comment-270</link>
		<dc:creator>Fiona Barnes</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Jun 2010 20:24:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I also went to a treatment program called Second Nature-Duchesne. It is a wilderness program in Utah, I was in the Unita mountains for 2 months, it was so helpful. People who say this stuff is illegal, take it from some one who was there from June 08&#039; to August 08&#039;, it was the best thing that has ever happened, the most fun, relaxed, hard working time of my left growning up! Treatment programs and their practices are NOT ILLEGAL! I was in FOUR programs. Its the kids there that did illegal things. Programs are very helpful, so all of you that say this stuff is bad, yall are so naive. Do more reaserch on this stuff, you will actually see great things come out of treatment, but only if  you want it to work. and i made it work!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I also went to a treatment program called Second Nature-Duchesne. It is a wilderness program in Utah, I was in the Unita mountains for 2 months, it was so helpful. People who say this stuff is illegal, take it from some one who was there from June 08&#8242; to August 08&#8242;, it was the best thing that has ever happened, the most fun, relaxed, hard working time of my left growning up! Treatment programs and their practices are NOT ILLEGAL! I was in FOUR programs. Its the kids there that did illegal things. Programs are very helpful, so all of you that say this stuff is bad, yall are so naive. Do more reaserch on this stuff, you will actually see great things come out of treatment, but only if  you want it to work. and i made it work!!</p>
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		<title>By: Fiona Barnes</title>
		<link>http://parent-empowerment-blog.com/2009/09/05/best-practices-vs-innovation/comment-page-1/#comment-269</link>
		<dc:creator>Fiona Barnes</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Jun 2010 20:19:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Okay, I went to a program called Island View RTC (Residental Treatment Center) in Syracuse, Utah, for adolecents. I was admitted when i was 16, Aug. 08&#039; and graduated the program Sept 09&#039;, i was 18. For all you parents that have emotionally dyregulated teens, traumatized teens, due to rape, abuse, and molestation...ect. Teens that are drug addicts or can be diagnosed as a addict. Or have kids that are diagnosed as BPD, BP, Depression, Anxiety, whatever. Listen I was one of those girls at IV, which is co-ed btw, it helped alot, but some of the things that goes on at programs are out of your control. Like, how you kid acts, if they are PI-4ed (which is Personal Intervention where they tackle your kid if they are a sevre harm to themselves or others around them by acting out violently). Treatment Centers will only help your child is ready, your kid can take the skills that are taught there however they want to. Use it or push it away. I personally played the program, I did everything they wanted me to do, with little fuss. When I got out I was admitted to TWO more prgrams around the US, thats because I &quot;played&quot; the program, I faked it. Treatment Centers dont work for your child unless your child wants to work and change and make a difference in them sleves.  All you need to do, is encourage your kid and dont judge them, and make them feel guilty, it will only make them have more grief and pain about how they acted/behaved at home. Keep this thought in mind parents, just because your kid doesnt say something, doesnt mean they dont feel a certain way. I can &quot;look&quot; happy, but feel really suicidel inside, thats just a example dont worry.  This is a process that will take time. Maturing and growing-up, is not a done quicly, so dont force your kid to do everything you want, they are not 5 anymore, they are out of your control when they are 18, just like I am to my parents. And that scares them, eventhough now I use the skills and tools that I learned at Island View RTC, and put them into good use now.  Have hope, and encourage your kids with positive things, and keep having good attitudes and positive consequnces for things they do right. Natural consequences will come with the more megative things your kid will do, and they will have to learn, thats all life is.  NOTE: if any parents would like a good movie that really puts treatment in to more simpler words, watch the movie &quot;Ordinary People&quot;. It came out in the 80s.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Okay, I went to a program called Island View RTC (Residental Treatment Center) in Syracuse, Utah, for adolecents. I was admitted when i was 16, Aug. 08&#8242; and graduated the program Sept 09&#8242;, i was 18. For all you parents that have emotionally dyregulated teens, traumatized teens, due to rape, abuse, and molestation&#8230;ect. Teens that are drug addicts or can be diagnosed as a addict. Or have kids that are diagnosed as BPD, BP, Depression, Anxiety, whatever. Listen I was one of those girls at IV, which is co-ed btw, it helped alot, but some of the things that goes on at programs are out of your control. Like, how you kid acts, if they are PI-4ed (which is Personal Intervention where they tackle your kid if they are a sevre harm to themselves or others around them by acting out violently). Treatment Centers will only help your child is ready, your kid can take the skills that are taught there however they want to. Use it or push it away. I personally played the program, I did everything they wanted me to do, with little fuss. When I got out I was admitted to TWO more prgrams around the US, thats because I &#8220;played&#8221; the program, I faked it. Treatment Centers dont work for your child unless your child wants to work and change and make a difference in them sleves.  All you need to do, is encourage your kid and dont judge them, and make them feel guilty, it will only make them have more grief and pain about how they acted/behaved at home. Keep this thought in mind parents, just because your kid doesnt say something, doesnt mean they dont feel a certain way. I can &#8220;look&#8221; happy, but feel really suicidel inside, thats just a example dont worry.  This is a process that will take time. Maturing and growing-up, is not a done quicly, so dont force your kid to do everything you want, they are not 5 anymore, they are out of your control when they are 18, just like I am to my parents. And that scares them, eventhough now I use the skills and tools that I learned at Island View RTC, and put them into good use now.  Have hope, and encourage your kids with positive things, and keep having good attitudes and positive consequnces for things they do right. Natural consequences will come with the more megative things your kid will do, and they will have to learn, thats all life is.  NOTE: if any parents would like a good movie that really puts treatment in to more simpler words, watch the movie &#8220;Ordinary People&#8221;. It came out in the 80s.</p>
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		<title>By: Ben Sclove</title>
		<link>http://parent-empowerment-blog.com/2009/09/05/best-practices-vs-innovation/comment-page-1/#comment-128</link>
		<dc:creator>Ben Sclove</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Oct 2009 04:05:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Lon Woodbury - Heather is telling it like it is/was. Not &quot;heresay&quot; or &quot;war stories&quot; from others. With all due respect, when you say that you participated in &quot;most of the above&quot; it is obvious that you participated as a staff and not as a kid/forced participant.  

I&#039;m sure you can find ex-students that will give you your positive responses. I know many many many more that want nothing to do with surveys or even talking about their experiences in cedu and cedu like programs because they were so tramitized. 

Finally, I find it upsetting and scary that anyone would be OK with sending the child to a program that would &quot;experimenting&quot; in hopes of becoming the &quot;next best practice&quot;. Great for the kids of the programs that work, not so great for the ones that the &quot;experiment&quot; did not work.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Lon Woodbury &#8211; Heather is telling it like it is/was. Not &#8220;heresay&#8221; or &#8220;war stories&#8221; from others. With all due respect, when you say that you participated in &#8220;most of the above&#8221; it is obvious that you participated as a staff and not as a kid/forced participant.  </p>
<p>I&#8217;m sure you can find ex-students that will give you your positive responses. I know many many many more that want nothing to do with surveys or even talking about their experiences in cedu and cedu like programs because they were so tramitized. </p>
<p>Finally, I find it upsetting and scary that anyone would be OK with sending the child to a program that would &#8220;experimenting&#8221; in hopes of becoming the &#8220;next best practice&#8221;. Great for the kids of the programs that work, not so great for the ones that the &#8220;experiment&#8221; did not work.</p>
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		<title>By: Eric</title>
		<link>http://parent-empowerment-blog.com/2009/09/05/best-practices-vs-innovation/comment-page-1/#comment-127</link>
		<dc:creator>Eric</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Oct 2009 02:35:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Lon,

You sound like a mad scientist, trying to justify radical experiments on homeless, disabled, or elderly people.  You are not messing with some lab rat, these are living, breathing people.  

The post-traumatic stress, of which I have been clinically diagnosed, did not come from my time in the military.  It did not come from living in a war zone for a year.  
It came from a facility, like yours.  
It came from administrators, like you.  
It came from staff, like the ones you employ.  

It would be safer to send children into Baghdad than send them to a residential treatment center.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Lon,</p>
<p>You sound like a mad scientist, trying to justify radical experiments on homeless, disabled, or elderly people.  You are not messing with some lab rat, these are living, breathing people.  </p>
<p>The post-traumatic stress, of which I have been clinically diagnosed, did not come from my time in the military.  It did not come from living in a war zone for a year.<br />
It came from a facility, like yours.<br />
It came from administrators, like you.<br />
It came from staff, like the ones you employ.  </p>
<p>It would be safer to send children into Baghdad than send them to a residential treatment center.</p>
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		<title>By: Heather</title>
		<link>http://parent-empowerment-blog.com/2009/09/05/best-practices-vs-innovation/comment-page-1/#comment-126</link>
		<dc:creator>Heather</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Oct 2009 00:38:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Yes Lon.. I attended CEDU.. I did the entire program from start to finish.

ALL of the things mentioned above were a part of the program.  21 days were not experienced by everyone because you had to get in a lot of trouble to be put on one  (IE refusing the program for an extended period was a good enough reason).  Many of my peers were sent on 21 days.  

I am a graduate and none of this his &quot;hearsay&quot;

The consensus with graduates of my time is the program was illegal, abusive and unethical (mostly negative)

You can&#039;t discount real experience.  You participating in a &quot;workshop&quot; here and there is not the same as attending CEDU as a student year round, everyday for 30 months.  

I&#039;m glad some people had a good experience.. I would never wish upon someone the nightmarish emotions that me and many of my friends must endure due to CEDU.  But I highly doubt this opinion is a majority.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yes Lon.. I attended CEDU.. I did the entire program from start to finish.</p>
<p>ALL of the things mentioned above were a part of the program.  21 days were not experienced by everyone because you had to get in a lot of trouble to be put on one  (IE refusing the program for an extended period was a good enough reason).  Many of my peers were sent on 21 days.  </p>
<p>I am a graduate and none of this his &#8220;hearsay&#8221;</p>
<p>The consensus with graduates of my time is the program was illegal, abusive and unethical (mostly negative)</p>
<p>You can&#8217;t discount real experience.  You participating in a &#8220;workshop&#8221; here and there is not the same as attending CEDU as a student year round, everyday for 30 months.  </p>
<p>I&#8217;m glad some people had a good experience.. I would never wish upon someone the nightmarish emotions that me and many of my friends must endure due to CEDU.  But I highly doubt this opinion is a majority.</p>
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		<title>By: Heather</title>
		<link>http://parent-empowerment-blog.com/2009/09/05/best-practices-vs-innovation/comment-page-1/#comment-125</link>
		<dc:creator>Heather</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:39:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Of course it is not simple and I never stated it was simple.  It is in fact very complicated and very emotional and that&#039;s why I like to look at it from a legal and ethical standpoint.

-Keeping minors up for 24 hours at a time with little clothing and food with extreme variable temperatures is not legal

-Leaving a minor in the desert alone for 4 days with little food and no shelter is not legal

-Giving valid high school credits for chopping wood with a cross cut saw and sledge and wedge for 30 hours a week is unethical

-Physically injuring a student and not letting them see a doctor nor tell their parents for months on end is not legal!

-Stripping a child of their right to smile, laugh, sing, be touched is unethical

The list goes on and on.  Although this &quot;great&quot; experiment may have helped a small minority.. it has hurt a great majority.  Innovation, with it&#039;s positive connotation, is noway to speak of with behavioral modification techniques on children especially when their parents are paying a lot of money for it.

The program is flawed and very expensive.

But I ask you Lon,  you seem to be the expert here..  Have you experienced a propheet? a rap? work assignments?  a workshop? work crews?  a wilderness trip? a solo?  a table? a fulltime? a 21 day?  dinner dishes?  lugs?

I ask.. who is the real expert here.  Who really know what effect a program has on it students?  

The students.

If you want data.. interview ALL students over ALL time periods.  I think you&#039;ll be surprised at the outcome.

&lt;em&gt; So far as experiences, yes I participated in most of the above, but some I never saw or heard happen at this school system (heard some from some rogue programs though).  So far as interview all students, I have received surveys from a period of over  many years with responses from very positive to very negative (with an emphasis on the positive) including some ex-students who have kept in touch with me, and: did you experience all of those bad experiences yourself, or are you just passing on heresay/war stories from others?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Of course it is not simple and I never stated it was simple.  It is in fact very complicated and very emotional and that&#8217;s why I like to look at it from a legal and ethical standpoint.</p>
<p>-Keeping minors up for 24 hours at a time with little clothing and food with extreme variable temperatures is not legal</p>
<p>-Leaving a minor in the desert alone for 4 days with little food and no shelter is not legal</p>
<p>-Giving valid high school credits for chopping wood with a cross cut saw and sledge and wedge for 30 hours a week is unethical</p>
<p>-Physically injuring a student and not letting them see a doctor nor tell their parents for months on end is not legal!</p>
<p>-Stripping a child of their right to smile, laugh, sing, be touched is unethical</p>
<p>The list goes on and on.  Although this &#8220;great&#8221; experiment may have helped a small minority.. it has hurt a great majority.  Innovation, with it&#8217;s positive connotation, is noway to speak of with behavioral modification techniques on children especially when their parents are paying a lot of money for it.</p>
<p>The program is flawed and very expensive.</p>
<p>But I ask you Lon,  you seem to be the expert here..  Have you experienced a propheet? a rap? work assignments?  a workshop? work crews?  a wilderness trip? a solo?  a table? a fulltime? a 21 day?  dinner dishes?  lugs?</p>
<p>I ask.. who is the real expert here.  Who really know what effect a program has on it students?  </p>
<p>The students.</p>
<p>If you want data.. interview ALL students over ALL time periods.  I think you&#8217;ll be surprised at the outcome.</p>
<p><em> So far as experiences, yes I participated in most of the above, but some I never saw or heard happen at this school system (heard some from some rogue programs though).  So far as interview all students, I have received surveys from a period of over  many years with responses from very positive to very negative (with an emphasis on the positive) including some ex-students who have kept in touch with me, and: did you experience all of those bad experiences yourself, or are you just passing on heresay/war stories from others?</em></p>
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		<title>By: Heather</title>
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		<dc:creator>Heather</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Oct 2009 02:43:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;m sorry Lon.. I am an ex-student and so are most of my best friends and we all agree about the illegality of the program.  

Reunions have nothing to do with the program... we have them all the time because the friendships made under such distress will be some of the tightest friendships ever created.  Those people are my family.. they went through 30 months of insanity with me.. and they will be a subset of my friend pool forever.. a subset that can understand me better than anyone.

&lt;em&gt;You are welcome to your opinion.  From my side, I hear from ex-students and ex-parents all the time and the reaction ranges from positive to negative  The picture is not as clear and simple as you seem to state.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m sorry Lon.. I am an ex-student and so are most of my best friends and we all agree about the illegality of the program.  </p>
<p>Reunions have nothing to do with the program&#8230; we have them all the time because the friendships made under such distress will be some of the tightest friendships ever created.  Those people are my family.. they went through 30 months of insanity with me.. and they will be a subset of my friend pool forever.. a subset that can understand me better than anyone.</p>
<p><em>You are welcome to your opinion.  From my side, I hear from ex-students and ex-parents all the time and the reaction ranges from positive to negative  The picture is not as clear and simple as you seem to state.</em></p>
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		<title>By: Heather</title>
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		<dc:creator>Heather</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Oct 2009 16:47:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Main Entry: in·no·va·tion
Pronunciation: \?i-n?-?v?-sh?n\
Function: noun
Date: 15th century

1 : the introduction of something new
2 : a new idea, method, or device : novelty

CEDU definitely used &quot;innovative&quot; approaches but that does not mean that they were successful nor does it imply that they were legal.    Daily humiliation for 30 months helps a struggling child how?

&lt;em&gt;That doesn&#039;t seem to be what the ex-students are saying on the facebook page planning the &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/event.php?eid=159227179568&amp;ref=ts&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Rocky Mountain Academy reunion&lt;/a&gt;:  and it doesn&#039;t sound like that from parents mostly distressed by &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.strugglingteens.com/news/lettertoeditor/ceduindex.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;CEDU&#039;s closing &lt;/a&gt;.   -Lon </description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Main Entry: in·no·va·tion<br />
Pronunciation: \?i-n?-?v?-sh?n\<br />
Function: noun<br />
Date: 15th century</p>
<p>1 : the introduction of something new<br />
2 : a new idea, method, or device : novelty</p>
<p>CEDU definitely used &#8220;innovative&#8221; approaches but that does not mean that they were successful nor does it imply that they were legal.    Daily humiliation for 30 months helps a struggling child how?</p>
<p><em>That doesn&#8217;t seem to be what the ex-students are saying on the facebook page planning the <a href="http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/event.php?eid=159227179568&#038;ref=ts" rel="nofollow">Rocky Mountain Academy reunion</a>:  and it doesn&#8217;t sound like that from parents mostly distressed by <a href="http://www.strugglingteens.com/news/lettertoeditor/ceduindex.html" rel="nofollow">CEDU&#8217;s closing </a>.   -Lon</em></p>
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		<title>By: Jon Martin</title>
		<link>http://parent-empowerment-blog.com/2009/09/05/best-practices-vs-innovation/comment-page-1/#comment-119</link>
		<dc:creator>Jon Martin</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Oct 2009 10:53:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>One of those &quot;rogue&quot; programs, you refer people to on a regular basis.  It IS a private program where there is a two decade old history of abuse.  FFS.

&lt;em&gt;Huh?  Is there a fact here?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>One of those &#8220;rogue&#8221; programs, you refer people to on a regular basis.  It IS a private program where there is a two decade old history of abuse.  FFS.</p>
<p><em>Huh?  Is there a fact here?</em></p>
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		<title>By: Siobhan Phoenix</title>
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		<dc:creator>Siobhan Phoenix</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Oct 2009 09:53:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Internet Addiction? Seriously? ... ok lets back up a few ...

15 years ago - in the budding internet - I was one of those that could have been considered &quot;an internet addict&quot; - did this ruin my life? 

No.

It actually gave me the basis for something that has now become the livelihood of my family.

Let me explain - I spent countless hours on MUDs (like today&#039;s MMORPG&#039;s but text based), IRC (internet relay chat - essentially chat rooms), and the WWW. I was fascinated with the whole new world opening up. (It might also be said that I had just gotten out of one of those &quot;treatment facilities&quot;, for a so-called &quot;sex addiction&quot; - even though there was no addiction, and it was actually a matter of personal identity - I was a lesbian - and I have Asperger&#039;s Syndrome - which, given its ability to become compulsive and obsessive, looked very much like &quot;addiction&quot;, when I got into something). 

I spent time at home - not working - on the computer, constantly - my parents (I was almost 20 at the time), were worried, always yelling at me to go get a job, and to get out of the house and do something social. Seriously - my life - nothing but &#039;net.

Flash forward 15 years later - I have an Emmy award for technical work with a team for Interactive Television, I work in the computer industry as a Systems Administrator/Network Engineer.

Essentially my &quot;addiction&quot; got to the point where I had to know everything about the internet and computers, I started playing with UNIX - which made all these things I was into (MUDs, IRC, and WWW) much easier, and definitely made my experience complex and enriching. 

When I finally needed to get a job, I finally had marketable skills - at first in tech support, next in networking. I was &quot;obsessed&quot; with networking and computers for a good part of the next 8 years from that point. 

And then came my son - and now - I&#039;m &quot;addicted&quot; to being a Mom.

I understand the paradigm for everyone to think of things they don&#039;t understand as &quot;addiction&quot; - but seriously - in things that can turn to marketable skills (and yes, I even think surfing porn can be turned into a marketable skill, or it may just be I know more about the internet and technology than the average bear... I have a friend who mkes a nice living doing bizarre porn websites - I&#039;m pretty sure that was an obsession/&quot;addiction&quot; for him at one point.) is there really such thing as an &quot;addiction&quot;? Or is it just obsession than can be harnessed and turned into something life-giving and affirming, and positive?

Sometimes it really amazes me how clueless some people really are - makes me want to hit them with a Clue by Four - ala the BOFH (another fun thing arising out of my internet &quot;addiction&quot; - look it up sometime).</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Internet Addiction? Seriously? &#8230; ok lets back up a few &#8230;</p>
<p>15 years ago &#8211; in the budding internet &#8211; I was one of those that could have been considered &#8220;an internet addict&#8221; &#8211; did this ruin my life? </p>
<p>No.</p>
<p>It actually gave me the basis for something that has now become the livelihood of my family.</p>
<p>Let me explain &#8211; I spent countless hours on MUDs (like today&#8217;s MMORPG&#8217;s but text based), IRC (internet relay chat &#8211; essentially chat rooms), and the WWW. I was fascinated with the whole new world opening up. (It might also be said that I had just gotten out of one of those &#8220;treatment facilities&#8221;, for a so-called &#8220;sex addiction&#8221; &#8211; even though there was no addiction, and it was actually a matter of personal identity &#8211; I was a lesbian &#8211; and I have Asperger&#8217;s Syndrome &#8211; which, given its ability to become compulsive and obsessive, looked very much like &#8220;addiction&#8221;, when I got into something). </p>
<p>I spent time at home &#8211; not working &#8211; on the computer, constantly &#8211; my parents (I was almost 20 at the time), were worried, always yelling at me to go get a job, and to get out of the house and do something social. Seriously &#8211; my life &#8211; nothing but &#8216;net.</p>
<p>Flash forward 15 years later &#8211; I have an Emmy award for technical work with a team for Interactive Television, I work in the computer industry as a Systems Administrator/Network Engineer.</p>
<p>Essentially my &#8220;addiction&#8221; got to the point where I had to know everything about the internet and computers, I started playing with UNIX &#8211; which made all these things I was into (MUDs, IRC, and WWW) much easier, and definitely made my experience complex and enriching. </p>
<p>When I finally needed to get a job, I finally had marketable skills &#8211; at first in tech support, next in networking. I was &#8220;obsessed&#8221; with networking and computers for a good part of the next 8 years from that point. </p>
<p>And then came my son &#8211; and now &#8211; I&#8217;m &#8220;addicted&#8221; to being a Mom.</p>
<p>I understand the paradigm for everyone to think of things they don&#8217;t understand as &#8220;addiction&#8221; &#8211; but seriously &#8211; in things that can turn to marketable skills (and yes, I even think surfing porn can be turned into a marketable skill, or it may just be I know more about the internet and technology than the average bear&#8230; I have a friend who mkes a nice living doing bizarre porn websites &#8211; I&#8217;m pretty sure that was an obsession/&#8221;addiction&#8221; for him at one point.) is there really such thing as an &#8220;addiction&#8221;? Or is it just obsession than can be harnessed and turned into something life-giving and affirming, and positive?</p>
<p>Sometimes it really amazes me how clueless some people really are &#8211; makes me want to hit them with a Clue by Four &#8211; ala the BOFH (another fun thing arising out of my internet &#8220;addiction&#8221; &#8211; look it up sometime).</p>
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